The Motherhood Journals

This is truly special to witness; it's a real privilege. As I’m within the sanctuary of the family's home for up to 4 weeks, you subtly and gratefully become part of the furniture, quietly and respectfully. So as the days pass through this ancient lineage of care, you see things shift physically, which is pure biology to me, but also her smile changes as you walk through the door, her eyes are more vibrant and her skin colour changes

The shift in friendships after having a baby is real, and it’s something almost every mother experiences. Let’s dive into why friendships change after motherhood, how to navigate the emotional shifts, and ways to find a new support system that actually fits your life as a mum.

Dear Mama, We see you. We see the way you pour yourself into motherhood, the way you carry the weight of the world while still showing up with love and strength, even when you feel like a shadow of yourself. As a society, we sit here adding to the pressure, adding to the load and, let's be brutally honest - failing you miserably every step of the way. We owe you an apology.

This idea flips the script. Instead of seeing happiness, peace or calm as something that only exists in the future, tied to the achievement of a goal, it invites you to find joy and satisfaction in the present moment. It’s a reminder that your feelings aren’t just an outcome of a milestone, but they are a tool for creating it. 

Children experience grief differently than adults. They may not have the words to express their feelings, so they show them in other ways—through tears, anger, or even unexpected silliness. Some days, they may seem perfectly fine, and the next, a wave of sadness can hit them out of nowhere. It’s all part of how they process the big feelings they don’t fully understand yet.

Understand the triggers behind maternal rage—sleep deprivation, lack of support, and loss of self-identity and discover simple self-care strategies and support systems that can help you manage stress and find relief. Ever feel intense anger as a mother? Uncover the triggers behind maternal rage and explore practical tips to reclaim your balance and self-care.

Managing emotions as a new mother can be tough. This post shares simple tips to help you process feelings, set boundaries, and support your well-being. Early motherhood is an emotional rollercoaster. This post shares practical tips to help you process feelings and nurture your well-being.

A birth debriefing allows you to reflect on and honor your birth experience, whether it was joyful or challenging. This supportive process provides a safe space to process emotions, gain clarity, and find closure as you step into parenthood with confidence. Your birth story deserves to be heard. This post shows how a compassionate birth debriefing session can help you process your experience, find closure, and step into parenthood with clarity and support.

Navigating the Heartbreak of Pregnancy Loss delves into the profound grief that follows miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death. This post compassionately breaks the silence surrounding loss by sharing personal insights, practical steps for self-care, and ways to seek both professional and communal support during one of life's most challenging moments.

Discover how proactive postpartum planning can transform your journey into motherhood. This post outlines the critical benefits of preparing ahead—from organizing nutritious meals and setting up recovery systems to establishing clear boundaries with visitors and building a trusted support network. With practical tips and insights, you'll learn how a well-crafted plan can help you recover, bond with your new-born, and navigate the early days of motherhood with confidence.

Today, a doula is typically someone who acts as a hub of support, referrals and resources for a person during a major life transition, usually related to birth. Doulas have a holistic approach that considers both mental and physical well-being. Services vary significantly but can include emotional reassurance, information based on scientific evidence, and comfort techniques like massage and nourishing food. The role is not medical, and doulas cannot treat, diagnose or cure any disease.

The concept of matrescence gives us a framework to see the transition into motherhood as every bit as awkward, painful, and profound as adolescence, and allows us to reclaim and celebrate this shift in identity.