In Conversation With Frances Bilbao from Mums Matter Psychology
What is the perfect mother myth and why does it exist?
In the second of our series of interviews on the unspoken truths of motherhood, Frances Bilbao from Mums Matter discusses the perfect mother myth and explores the question of why does it exists in the first place?
We look at how we can start to normalise the realities of modern motherhood – the full spectrum, including the challenging aspects that often feel taboo to speak about?
And importantly, how can we assist mothers in redefining what it means to be a ‘good’ mother?
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Hi, I’m Dr. Erin Hawken, a passionate Chiropractor dedicated to supporting mothers, babies, and families in their journey to a calm, clear, connected and resilient life. Having completed my postgraduate study in Chiropractic care for pregnancy, babies and children and being certificatied in the Webster technique, I have almost 20 years experience in looking after families through all the important times in life.
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I care for people with many different needs including:
- Newborns struggling with constipation, feeding issues, or reflux
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- Children struggling to meet their developmental milestones
- Families seeking holistic health and stress management
- Professionals dealing with stress, sleep issues, energy and mood challenges
My gentle, compassionate approach focuses on helping your nervous system change gears into your parasympathetic, rest & digest state – this is where your body can truly regulate and regenerate itself. This state is crucial for healing, development, creativity, and even experiencing deeper connections with yourself and your loved ones.
Whether you’re an expecting mother, a new parent, or simply someone seeking a more balanced, resilient approach to health, I’m here to support you. My goal is to help you rediscover life through a healthier body and a more clear, connected state of being. Let’s work together to unlock your body’s incredible potential for healing, growth, and well-being.
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