Our Wonderhood
About Our Wonderhood
I’m Trina Toh; a matrescence coach and mom.
Motherhood changes everything — not just your sleep, your schedule, or your body — but your identity, your relationships, and the way you move through your own life.
One day you’re yourself. The next, you’re responsible for a tiny human while still carrying the mental load, navigating partnership shifts, and wondering why no one talks about how disorienting this can feel.
I support expecting and early mothers through the psychological and emotional transition into motherhood — a process known as matrescence. While most prenatal education prepares you for labour and baby care, I focus on the part that catches women off guard: snapping at your partner and not recognising yourself, lying awake replaying the day, feeling overstimulated by 5pm, carrying resentment you don’t want to admit, or quietly wondering, “Why does this feel harder than I expected?”
Through my signature program, Birthing You, I guide mothers through a structured, research-informed process that helps them understand what is happening internally, unpack inherited beliefs about what a “good mother” should be, and rebuild motherhood in a way that doesn’t erase them.
My work integrates matrescence education, belief repatterning through my WonderMap™ process, and trauma-informed, nervous-system-aware support. This isn’t about coping harder or squeezing in more self-care. It’s about creating practical shifts — sharing the mental load without guilt, responding instead of reacting, having conversations that actually change dynamics, and feeling steady in yourself even on hard days.
I work with pregnant women who want to prepare beyond birth, and postpartum mothers who feel stretched thin, disconnected, or unsure where they fit in their own life even if they love their children deeply.
You are not failing. You are becoming. And you deserve a little help and village along the way.
Areas of expertise
- Matrescence (the psychological transition into motherhood)
- Trauma-informed practice
- Belief repatterning that goes beyond patchwork solutions
- Research-informed perinatal mental health education
- Relationship and mental load dynamics in early parenthood
- Group facilitation and community-based support models
- 10 years+ change coach
- Creator of the WonderMap™ belief repatterning framework
- Founder of the Birthing You matrescence model (7-element framework)
Company values
Diversity & Inclusion
Women Owned
Learn about the support you didn't know you needed.
We have cherry picked the most useful resources for your fourth trimester so that you don't have to waste precious hours searching.
Article - Louise Barton + Elisha Wildblood (Not Another Onesie)
How to Talk About Sharing the Mental Load with Your Partner: A Complete Guide
In many households, the mental and emotional work of managing a family, often called the invisible load, falls disproportionately on mothers. It's not just about doing tasks; it's about carrying the mental checklist: remembering appointments, organising activities, planning meals, and anticipating everyone's needs. Over time, this invisible mental load can lead to resentment, overwhelm, and burnout.
Article - Paula Charlton (Pause Postpartum)
Postpartum Support in Melbourne: Your Options After Birth
Good postpartum support can make a world of difference. From reassurance about what's normal, to breastfeeding guidance and emotional check-ins, the right care helps families feel confident, calm and supported. If you're looking for postpartum support in Melbourne, there are a few different options available, each with its own benefits and limitations.
Article - Dr Mandy Godwin (Mums in Bloom)
Navigating the Emotional Side of Pregnancy and New Motherhood
The emotional side of pregnancy and new motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, but thankfully, Mandy Godwin, a perinatal psychologist in Australia and founder of Mums in Bloom, has created two free guides to help mums navigate this tender time and support their emotional wellbeing during pregnancy and postpartum.
Article - Ali Mills (Grief Guide)
Navigating the Hidden Grief of Motherhood
To gently unpack this invisible grief in motherhood, we spoke with Ali from Grief Guide, a registered counsellor and grief specialist based in Brisbane who supports mothers and families in person and via telehealth. In this conversation, Ali explores the hidden losses woven through matrescence, how grief shows up in our bodies, and what compassionate support can look like for mothers navigating this profound life transition.
Watch - Elisha Wildblood and Louise Barton (Not Another Onesie)
What is the perfect mother myth and why does it exist?
The 'perfect mother' myth: What is it and why does it exist?