Our Wonderhood
About Our Wonderhood
I’m Trina Toh; a matrescence coach and mom.
Motherhood changes everything — not just your sleep, your schedule, or your body — but your identity, your relationships, and the way you move through your own life.
One day you’re yourself. The next, you’re responsible for a tiny human while still carrying the mental load, navigating partnership shifts, and wondering why no one talks about how disorienting this can feel.
I support expecting and early mothers through the psychological and emotional transition into motherhood — a process known as matrescence. While most prenatal education prepares you for labour and baby care, I focus on the part that catches women off guard: snapping at your partner and not recognising yourself, lying awake replaying the day, feeling overstimulated by 5pm, carrying resentment you don’t want to admit, or quietly wondering, “Why does this feel harder than I expected?”
Through my signature program, Birthing You, I guide mothers through a structured, research-informed process that helps them understand what is happening internally, unpack inherited beliefs about what a “good mother” should be, and rebuild motherhood in a way that doesn’t erase them.
My work integrates matrescence education, belief repatterning through my WonderMap™ process, and trauma-informed, nervous-system-aware support. This isn’t about coping harder or squeezing in more self-care. It’s about creating practical shifts — sharing the mental load without guilt, responding instead of reacting, having conversations that actually change dynamics, and feeling steady in yourself even on hard days.
I work with pregnant women who want to prepare beyond birth, and postpartum mothers who feel stretched thin, disconnected, or unsure where they fit in their own life even if they love their children deeply.
You are not failing. You are becoming. And you deserve a little help and village along the way.
Areas of expertise
- Matrescence (the psychological transition into motherhood)
- Trauma-informed practice
- Belief repatterning that goes beyond patchwork solutions
- Research-informed perinatal mental health education
- Relationship and mental load dynamics in early parenthood
- Group facilitation and community-based support models
- 10 years+ change coach
- Creator of the WonderMap™ belief repatterning framework
- Founder of the Birthing You matrescence model (7-element framework)
Company values
Diversity & Inclusion
Women Owned
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